The ultimate goal in a triathlon swim is efficiency.
Speed and power take a back seat to a well-positioned body slicing through the water. In fact, inefficient form turns power into a disadvantage. Poor body position creates too much drag and you end up swimming uphill, sapping your precious strength. Eventually you’ll finish, but you’ll face the rest of your race exhausted.
The best swimmers create little disruption in the water, aerodynamically working with the flow, not against.
When a challenging situation arises at work and you’re placed in a position to have a difficult conversation with someone, are you fighting the water or slicing through it?
Too often we fight the water by creating win/lose situations with employees. Face it, win/lose is lose/lose for a manager, because if we win, of course we did, we’re ‘The Boss.’
The key is efficiency.
There are many tools that help us swim more efficiently. Wetsuits make us buoyant, training makes us stronger, coaching points out our challenges and gives us a plan for improvement. Our most effective tools for efficiency in dealing with a challenging employee is the question, and of course, training and coaching.
You hear from someone that Dan called Fred a dumbass, so you ask Dan why he called Fred a dumbass. Putting Dan on the defensive creates the win/lose. It’s now you and Fred vs. Dan.
Instead, “Dan, why am I hearing you called Fred a dumbass?” kicks off a very different conversation.
By asking questions, you give your employee the benefit of the doubt while controlling the conversation. Control is key; once you lose it, you lose.
When you meet with your management training team, set up scenarios like the one above and do your best to have a complete question-based conversation with your challenging employee. Role play with your team to see how far you can go with your questioning on an issue.
- Why am I hearing this?
- How could this have happened?
- Why would she say that?
- How does this help our department?
- How does this get us closer to our goal?
- What do you propose we do about this?
Channel your inner Columbo to become a proficient questioner and you will become a stronger manager.